Health Coaching, Intentional Eating & Working with Clients with Alex

Health Coaching, Intentional Eating & Working with Clients with Alex

Balance is possible. Burnout is avoidable. Alex Stalberger is a trained integrative nutrition health coach with a passion for the change-makers and leaders in our Twin Cities community. Alex's background in psychology and human behavior is paired with her insatiable love of good, whole food. Through whole food and lifestyle, Alex empowers people to take their careers to the next level with clarity of mind, unshakable focus, and consistent energy by eating for success. Alex teaches the concepts of intentional eating and the Boss Bowl with audiences around the Twin Cities, as well as takes on private 6-month partnerships. Success doesn't feel like burnout.

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Hi, everyone. Welcome to Twin Cities collective podcast. I'm your host Jenna Redfield. It's day I have a special guest, Alex. Alex, would you like to introduce yourself?

Alex Stalberger 1:10

Sure, sure. Hi. I'm Alex Steinberger, I'm a holistic wellness and lifestyle coach. So I got my certification, holistic health

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 1:17

coaching. How did you do that? Yeah. So

Alex Stalberger 1:19

it was a great year long. I N is the institution the Institute of institution for integrative nutrition. It's a New York City.

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 1:27

Yeah, it is. But it's online.

Alex Stalberger 1:30

Yep. Is all online with a group coaching component at the end? That was very, it was very eye opening. They cover a lot of ground.

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 1:37

Yeah, for sure. Because I, I think a lot of people aren't certified. It's it's good to know that you're certified, you know?

Alex Stalberger 1:43

Yes. Yeah. And it's great to know also, there's a lot of different types of certifications. So, you know, digging around online, you can see what really does it take to become certified as a holistic health coach.

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 1:53

So let's take step back, how did you decide to become a health coach? Sure. That's a great question. So

Alex Stalberger 2:00

decided that was kind of a light bulb moment I was sitting in my car. So I have a background in human services, I was teaching independent living skills, and had been doing that for quite some time, when I just kind of had this aha moment where I was trying to teach, you know, the importance of nutrition, the importance of caring for yourself, and caring for your body to the adults that I was teaching, but also to my employees. I was just having a really hard time breaking through. And I knew that if I could, if I could become really good at getting people to find worth within themselves to take care of themselves, we'd have a totally different community. So it was literally within that moment in my car, I call the school and I'm like I'm enrolling.

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 2:40

So you because you were ready went to college? Are you done all of your degree and everything? Yeah, we're like I had it a career and I just kind of changed it up.

Alex Stalberger 2:46

Yes, yeah, I found myself, I was already empowering others, I wanted to have something more specific that I was empowering them toward. And this idea of self worth, and making our community an even better place to live. So I'm really excited to be working with people that are visionaries. They've got big ideas that passionately moving toward those ideas, and using nutrition and lifestyle as a tool to really harness their energy and create better.

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 3:11

I can tell you're passionate, like I really can like you like which I love. I love passionate people, because that's why a lot of people start doing businesses because they're still passionate about what they're doing. Is that kind of why you decided to kind of go on your own and do it.

Alex Stalberger 3:23

Yes. I love the idea of getting to express my idea. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, and but also meeting and meeting incredible people and having it's kind of a control thing, I guess. But also, when I decided to start my own business, all the sudden, I had so many questions, and I could literally nothing was holding me back from getting the answer. And I I'm like Hi, is it is

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 3:47

so you originally started out as like a blogger, though, like a food blogger,

Unknown Speaker 3:50

I thought that I wanted to be a food blogger I because I love food blogs. I love them so much cooking is something I had as a hobby.

Alex Stalberger 3:59

loved it, who doesn't like food. So I thought, Gosh, I really like to follow these things. I probably want to be that. And then when I found out that maybe maybe writing a blog isn't my highest skill thing. So no, I found that talking with people and in connecting with them in person in that like in the moment. And now empowering that way really drove me more than recipe development. interest. There are beautiful recipe developers and we need them. It's just now which is okay.

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 4:27

So when you work with your clients, what does that look like? So are you giving them those recipes other people have made? Or how does that work? then

Alex Stalberger 4:34

yeah, I, I like to empower people with the resources that they need, I don't want me to be the end all resource. So I strive in our sessions to teach them the questions that they can ask themselves. So we're building a school, a tool kit that they can take with them after we're finished working with each other. So I can kind of step back. So I do long term health coaching programs. So six weeks month program is ideal. And we meet every other week for an hour. And what we what we really focus on is just like any any type of coaching, you're very, you're capable in and of yourself. But what a coach does is it really helps you clarify what your intentions are, and ground those intentions and then make sure that you know what resources to use. And so I definitely use a lot of like, recipe developers and food blogs as a resource to give the people that I work with.

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 5:27

So what does your so you say you meet every other week for an hour? What does that look like? Is it them talking? Is it you talking? How's that work?

Alex Stalberger 5:34

Ideally, it's them talking with my guidance. So they have explored, for example, we talked a lot about this idea of intentional eating, not everybody may know what intentional eating is or what that might feel like. But that idea of it being identified, identifying that I feel this way, low energy, but perhaps anxious brain fog. And I would like to not feel that way, right that I identifying that. And then putting trying something, trying a new way of eating, maybe it's increasing water and take things you already know that you should probably do. So we're finding ways that you can successfully integrate that into your current lifestyle. So we're not giving up your career, we're not changing completely the way that you're working, we're not doing more, we're doing things a little bit differently. And then during our sessions, we really analyze, okay, what worked? And why do we think that worked? And we kind of hope that there's a little bit of frustration, we hope that there's a little bit of like that grind is good, and helps us point that, you know, point us in the right direction. What is

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 6:34

like the biggest thing people struggle with? Is it the Is it the recipes? Is it the habits? What is it like what are a lot of people trying to get over when it comes to eating?

Alex Stalberger 6:46

making time for and I don't want to say making time because making time. And so anyway, so like we didn't have it, it's more of CO viewing, eating as a tool. I think that is that is really difficult to because you're changing the way that you're viewing that process. Because you're utilizing food differently. So you know, when you're using when you use when you imagine how you use your time during your day, and you go over processes, right? If the process in your business, you want to eliminate the stuff that's not being effective. What we do that same thing with food, we're eliminating what's not really effective, like effective for you. And viewing it like a tool is the hardest thing to get somebody like reframing it once we have that frame. things really smooth.

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 7:29

Yeah, because my biggest thing is, I don't like to cook. I have a few things. I don't like to cook I'm very picky eater. And I don't have a lot of time like to do it. So what it like is that some of the biggest things I'm sure people come up with because those are like what I think a lot of people huge, like

Alex Stalberger 7:45

Yep, definitely that's that's very common to feel like, okay, I don't like to cook. Well, we kind of unpack that. What is it about cooking that you don't like? I don't have time to cook. Okay, like, let's talk about where you are getting your food and just understand. This is not like, This is bad. This is good. It's just understanding, okay, this is your lifestyle? What what is actually going on? And what are we okay with what's working for you and what's not working for you? Because cooking? If you There are many ways to do it, you can take a long time doing it. You can take not some time. But what's what's priority for you right now? And what are you willing to do? Or try? Because many times we were quick to say those things? Yeah, maybe we don't mean them.

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 8:24

Yeah, that makes sense. I think sometimes it's you've always said that, like I've always said, I'm a picky eater, and maybe that keeps it in my brain that I'm picky eater, you know, the mindset

Alex Stalberger 8:35

of what is our story that we're telling ourselves, you know, we tell ourselves many stories, and, you know, food, just like that feeling of worth, you know, inside of us, we have a lot of emotions that are attached to food, a lot of, you know, cultural roots that are tied in food, you know, relationships are tied in food. And so it's not just as simple as,

I'm just going to, you know,

because if you could just treat it like a prescription. It's true, you'd lose a lot of the beautiful things

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 9:09

that Yeah, cuz I did the whole 30 last year, and it was super hard. How was your What was your experience? I ended up quitting about three weeks on Okay. Um, I think for me, well, I thought that like milk was going to be the hardest to get rid of, because I love milk. Like, I drink a lot of milk. But it was bread. Interesting. Yeah. I was surprised because like, you know, we went to a restaurant with my friends. And it was a Italian restaurant, and couldn't eat any of the bread that was at the, you know, free in front of me, like, just like my, you know, or like, I couldn't have like, Girl cheat. Like, there's certain things that like, because I with milk, I just stopped eating cereal. Like it was just a little bit easier than I expected. I switched to almond milk or whatever. And it's just like, okay, like that one. I felt like over a period of time wasn't as difficult as I like, I realized bread was sugar wasn't that bad? Like, there were certain things I was like I was okay with. It was like the bread that like

Alex Stalberger 9:58

that was the hardest. That's interesting, because of the way that you're talking about what was difficult, this idea of not being able to have many people think and this is great. Because when we think about, Okay, I need to eat healthier. So all of a sudden, the first thing you do is cut something out. Yeah, right. Okay, who wants to do that? I know, nobody wants to do it. But what we're actually talking about is instead of being quick to cut something out, that is not the first thing that we do, because it's not effective,

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 10:26

you're gonna get sick of it, because I know I do. I know, right? You're gonna quit two weeks. That's why I don't I hate to say, but I don't think some of those diets work. I mean, they're only supposed to be 30 days, it's like, kind of retrain yourself, but also your body. But I was like, I don't want this, like, I want to eat healthier. But I also feel like this diet is so restricted, that it's insane. Like, no one could ever keep up with this for a year. You know,

Alex Stalberger 10:46

right. And many, many people I would say arguably most people don't give up with it. Because it's not it's not meant to be a lifestyle, lifestyle. But how do you how would you use my question would be okay, how do we use something like whole 30 to build awareness and then using that? How do we take what works for you integrate that into life?

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 11:03

There were a few things that I found I learned about RX bars, which are paleo like I thought they were really good because it was like, it was like one of the things on the list that you could eat, and I like I never heard of them. And then now I've seen that there's this huge cult following behind RX. Just like crazy. I would love to talk about our expires because they later legitimately I've watched like videos about them and how they've changed the packaging. So they have like all their ingredients on the package. That is really neat. I also learned that you can make spaghetti with bean noodles, like black bean Can I couldn't eat flour. So I had like, I was like I could still somehow try to do like some sort of pasta but use like the black bean noodles. Was that the Trader Joe's trader? Oh, no, I think they were some club. I don't know they were or maybe Whole Foods or something. But I thought those are I mean, they weren't that much. They didn't taste that different. So I thought that was cool. It was healthier. And then there's like another thing that I found that I thought was good. I don't remember. But like there were a few things I think I found because I had to shop differently. I had to go to like liquids and like Whole Foods did like, oh the What do they call? I'll have to look it up. But there's this like really good. Whole Foods approved. Sugar Free like snack thing that I got. I have to look it up. Dang it. What's it called? I got sorry, this is gonna take a second. But basically basically what I found is that I found out about foods I didn't know about before that were healthier alternatives. That was probably the one thing I feel like I gain the most from doing whole 30 was I forced me to like try new things.

Alex Stalberger 12:28

Yeah, and I think that that's how we can use challenges to in in for our benefit because challenges they do they force us for a short amount of time to think differently about our routines and habits and we can definitely identify Wow, bread is really hard. Well, that's okay. It's good to know. Yeah. And just be prepared for that.

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 12:47

I think I learned a lot about myself, homie was the Have you ever had a whole new Oh, okay, so they're lemon. They're like, I don't know how to describe them. It's actually a local business and they are Yeah, green free gluten free non GMO paleo clusters. They're kind of like almost like this like a cookie but they're like a cluster of just like stuff stuff. It's like they had a bloop it tasted like a blueberry poppy seed muffin or like a lemon poppy seed muffin with blueberries in it it was so good. And you can get a whole foods and yeah local business but like I got really into those are kind of expensive though. So like it was just like that's the other thing is a lot of really healthy foods are a lot more expensive than the regular food. So that's another struggle I think it can be definitely and so it depends on depends on where you are and you're like Whole Foods journey. Yeah, you know and your health journey and like okay, is is exchanging your time for Whole Foods something that you willing to do or is it going to be exchange for time for exchange for money and then you use that money to buy you know, there are many ways to clean out like clean up the diet clean up your pantry, and there are some there are some really cost effective ways. I like I like to I like to brag my my grocery bill is extremely low. But I

Alex Stalberger 13:57

love I love to cook with bulk you know I go to I go and I buy bulk

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 14:03

dry go or where

Unknown Speaker 14:04

do you go? You know, I'm a huge proponent of

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 14:06

all the all the Hell yeah, my mom loves great, beautiful

Unknown Speaker 14:09

things at all the and then also my co op. So I kind of have both of these things. I go to the bulk and my co op and I just like, you know, brown rice, it's dry beans dry. But you know, I've got a pressure cooker at home. I don't even have to think about it. I throw it all in just cooks. And when I'm done with I put it my freezer, I literally Okay, so I'm not like an angel at whole food eating. I'm you know, I'm not like always eating the best thing. But there was a point, actually, just last week, I was kind of freaking out. It was one of those really busy weeks and lots of opportunities. It was really great. But in the morning, I'm like hot, my fridge is empty. There's like nothing in it. I need to go grocery shopping, you know that another routine that goes on your head. You're like, what am I going to eat? And like I like just pause, wait, open your freezer, see what you've like, what have you frozen? And it turned out I have this beautiful ball that I was able to put together. You know, I just took it took me a moment to say Alex, are you going to? Are you going to fall down that rabbit hole of going to AAA again? Or are you just going to take a deep breath? Look what you've prepared for yourself and just trust that you know that the food is there. And it is if you keep your whole food stocked pantry there was always food eat,

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 15:16

which is cool. Yeah, I think freeze it. Well, one of the things I've really gotten to eat a lot this year, which I don't know if it's good or bad. But I like smoothies because I used to have cereal every day for breakfast. And now I'm having more smoothies which because I work out in the morning, I workout like six 7am. And then I have a smoothie after Yeah, I know is good because you're supposed to eat protein within like an hour of working out right? Oh, is it? I don't often Okay, okay. Okay, that's good. Oh, when I used to go to alchemy, which is a gym around here, and they always said get protein within the next hour after every single workout did say that. And usually how I do it is I would have like a protein shake or like a smoothie, I guess was definitely a protein shake and a smoothie is one just have protein in it. I've always wondered that

Alex Stalberger 15:56

that's that would be what I would assume is that a protein shake could be something something that was based around the protein powder. And a smoothie might just be without base? Yeah.

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 16:05

Because I have a fruit based protein shake. Yeah, whatever. Like, is that the same thing? Because I feel like I do put protein powder in it. So that's why Okay, anyways, so I literally don't know anything about this. And that's why I want to have you on, because that's okay, I'm asking all the questions that I would ask like someone like you.

Alex Stalberger 16:20

And that's fine. And I want to I want to be very honest, and say that, you know, I've got, I've got other coaches that specialize in movement and specialize and workouts. And that's not a specialty that I have. And so I'm okay with saying, Hey, I don't necessarily know if the hour You know, I would I would reach out to one of my, you know, Fitness Trainers? And I would ask them, because what I specialize in is the mindset behind why would you choose to view food differently, when you have a business to run when you have a career that you're achieving our family at home, like what is possible when you use food as an intentional tool. And that is what I specialize in as an empowerment through your place. Empowerment through food, and it will leak out into all other aspects of your life. I love to talk about this with my clients is that you we do start at the plate. But what we're talking about is there's primary food and secondary food. Secondary food is everything you put in your mouth. Primary food is everything that's around you in life. And we talk we start with secondary food because we have can practice it, we eat it three times a day. Yeah, but this you can eat all the kale in the world and still be very sick. If you don't have a good relationship. You don't have a career you believe and you're not moving your body with intention. And you don't have a spirituality practice that makes you feel like life is purposeful. And so we do start with a food. But it is much more than that. It just

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 17:40

makes so much sense. Because I think that's the reason why people have issues with food is the rest of their life is an imbalance. Because I feel that way sometimes, too. It's like, Oh, my life is crazy. I want to eat something yummy, because that will help me feel better. You know,

Alex Stalberger 17:54

those cravings are? Yeah, that craving Where's it coming from? Is it actually coming from a nutritional deficiency? Or am I craving like stability and love and

true?

Uh huh. And we're just be be very aware of it. I love that conversation, the conversation about cravings, especially now as the season start to turn, we are going to experience so many different cravings. Super, super normal supernatural, but the very aware of it, yeah, what do you create it? You know,

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 18:20

yeah. And I think that obviously, like, sometimes I'm just like, I'm really hungry. Now. I don't want to like take an hour to make food that's like, sometimes what happens to me, it's like, I haven't planned ahead, and then I get really hungry. And so then I just go and like, make something in the microwave or something that's really that's really my routine, which is really bad. And I'm also really bad at planning ahead in general in life. So I think that affects my meals too, because I'm like, I'm not planning ahead at all.

Alex Stalberger 18:45

Absolutely. And so that's why I am so I, my life changed when I discovered the gospel. Okay, and I want I think I want to share it, because I think it's, it's helps a lot of people understand that the meal can look differently than maybe we think a meal can look. And it can really help when you're putting things together in a pinch. Because all we need, it's like a structure. That is you can follow the structure, but it doesn't really matter what type of so those greens, grains, beans, fetch and fat, five, okay, greens, grains, beans, okay? Belgian fat, and so as long as you like, okay, you look in your fridge, what kind of greens Do I have doesn't matter what it is throw it in there. grains, doesn't matter what it is a whole grain, throw it in there, beans, protein, whatever that is throw it in. Vegetable, okay, maybe it's salsa, maybe it's, you know, peppers doesn't matter, throw it in, and some other type of fat and you can get really creative or not. But you know that my bases are covered? I didn't have to think that hard. And all the nutrition bases are covered. So it's

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 19:47

so this is for like a like a dinner and lunch. Basically, you just have all five of those things in your meal is what you're saying?

Unknown Speaker 19:54

Yeah, yeah. And it's even better to put in a bowl because you can make it look as pretty as Instagram, Instagram, I'm pretty as you want. Or it can look really ugly and normal.

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 20:04

Take a picture?

Unknown Speaker 20:06

Or do you know?

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 20:08

Because I know, I see sometimes you do post food fake pictures on your Instagram, right?

Alex Stalberger 20:12

Yes, yes. Because I like to show that sometimes food looks pretty sometime Yeah, it's very functional. And we're talking about a gospel, we're talking about functional food. So that that moment when you say crap, I don't know what I'm going to eat, I don't want to take much time. You know, having a plan in place. Like just knowing this type in this type of food is going to sustain me and fill me we can talk a little bit later about, you know, following your cravings, and let that letting that influence what you eat, and that is intentional eating, is understanding what your cravings are and and implementing them. And that can that can really have a big,

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 20:49

big impact on your business. Yeah, so let's go and switch topics a little bit to like your actual business. So sure, how do you find your clients? And how do you market yourself?

Unknown Speaker 20:57

Yeah, great question. I meet with a lot of people one on one. So right now I've gotten a lot of my clients from Instagram, they'll be following me on Instagram, connecting I love Instagram, I know, connector. So I, you know, we'll have we'll start that relationship on Instagram. But I coach local, so I call people in person, and I coach people face to face and their local people. So I have the opportunity then after we meet on Instagram to sit down and talk and just get to know them getting to know their business getting to know what drives them. And it's that it's by that process of getting to know them, do we understand, you know, would they benefit from this? Or would they are they not ready for it? And so that is how I've been marketing? Yeah, is literally

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 21:41

only on Instagram

Unknown Speaker 21:41

pretty much solely on Instagram, meeting people face to face? Do you

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 21:45

do a lot of like, Is it an initial meeting with them? Or how does that work? Or do you like sign them up right away?

Alex Stalberger 21:52

Nope, nope. So right now what I usually do is just get to know them as a person. So it's not even an official console. Right? So I'm meeting with them, getting to know them, letting them know exist, I want to, you know, know what they do? Because I need to make sure you know

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 22:07

if it's for you if it's me.

Unknown Speaker 22:08

And then if I think that they could benefit from this, I have a free consultation. And what that looks like is just an under we kind of go through what are your goals? How do you find that food either fits or doesn't fit into your current lifestyle? And what would things be? How would things be different if you felt the way you wanted to feel? And we talked, we talked through that, and then I take all that information of that very dedicated conversation and put together okay, this is this is, this is where I think we should start. And this is a goal that we would be working on. You know, this would be Bennett very beneficial for you. I've seen, you know, this type of result that result, that kind of thing. And we go on from there. And only Yeah, you know, sign them up if they're really ready for it because it is a long time, six months. It's a partnership.

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 22:50

It's elaborative three days was like a lot for me.

Alex Stalberger 22:54

And also, I found, I'm working with a lot of people that are zero or 100 people they're going they're not they're either saying no to something or they're saying I'm all in and which is wonderful, but also can be a hurdle because they're wanting to clean up everything in an instant. They want to be perfect.

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 23:12

That makes so much sense, right? And they're like, I want you to everything in my life. Oh, yeah.

Unknown Speaker 23:17

And that's why the six months is like, Wait, what? Yeah, six months. But we're talking about sustainable lifestyle change that's going to be suitable for their career suitable for their lifestyle. And it will take small, incremental, intentional changes, that takes changing mindsets, that takes changing habits, there's going to be a lot of frustrations along the way. We're very aware of that. And so the six months is really what it takes to experience that transformation. And that's what I'm all about. If I wasn't doing transformation, I it wouldn't be worth it for me to guide somebody on

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 23:55

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Alright, we are back with Alex and we are talking about so the six month plan. How we I talked to you about this before but what like what, what's the stages of people that go through? Like they go through like the resistance and all that, like you said, at what point does it like change for people? Yes, absolutely. So there's this trajectory that people experience when they're going through, like the six month process program, although I hate the word program, it's a partnership.

Unknown Speaker 26:03

It's a collaborative partnership. But what we experienced is the first month and a half, there's this like this energy, this explosion of energy, because again, we're working with people that are either zero or 100. And you only have enough life force to keep that up for about a month, maybe a month and a half. Because of course we're meeting every other week. So you have some downtime, not me. So there's that incredible passion, they're doing a lot of research, they're really excited, they might be noticing a lot of changes, and they're there, they're saying, Hey, I'm going to do this, and then they're and they're actually doing it, which is wonderful compliance is high, there's a grind that happens about two to three months in, and it happens when we start to see there's some seasonal changes that happen, they've been doing this for a little while, while they may have plateaued a little bit, because you've experienced the that initial clarity of maybe introducing water into your time, you notice that like, there's some quick fixes that I experienced there, but three months comes around, and there's some frustrate because you've actually gotten to the real stuff, because you you've actually identified that you're dealing with cravings. Because you're you know, it's it's actually rooted in this idea of, of being worth it and worthwhile. And it's kind of grungy, and it's beautiful, it's emotional. And that is where the mindset in the habits really start to flower and bloom. So if you can get past this, this three months, this tough spot of that it is worth it, it you can see, you can see what life will be like, you know, if you get through this tough spot, right, light bulbs start to switch on, and we really get to, we get to switch from plate stuff like food, in the first three months is when the food happens. And then we start to see this generalized into primary food areas. So this idea of I am worth it, to value myself and to feed myself something of worth because it's going to allow me to do the work that I was born to do, then we get to apply that into relationships, like what relationships are you craving, what relationships are not working for you, because you've you've experienced this worth and now we're gonna we're gonna bring it into relationship spirituality, movement, the these primary food areas. And that is the most satisfying thing is to see that that that click that explosion of knowing, okay, I will experience bumps in the road. But I have the tools now to ask myself really critical questions, and then build myself up. Yeah, get out. Because now i'm not i'm not necessary as a coach like that is that's great. And that's what I want to see.

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 28:38

Yeah, I think that makes sense. Because a lot of for myself, I don't like to consider myself a coach, because I'm not in it for the long haul. But I feel like you are and I think a lot of people, there's so many different types of coaches and so many different types of people that you can work with one on one. But I feel like for you in order to get the right results, you do have to do it long term.

Alex Stalberger 28:57

Yes. So I love that. I love that you mentioned that because I personally have been trying to figure out, I get asked for a lot of short term things. Hey, do you just build plans? Hey, do you just do single sessions? And I've tried that because you want to say yes, I can I can help you. I can serve you. I see. You're asking for my help. I'm helper, I'm going to power this is what I do. And so and i have i've said yes. And I've you know, come up with single sessions, and I've come up with a three month program, because six months seem too long. And there is it just it is not the same you then you're consulting, which has a

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 29:30

place. Yeah. And that's what I do. Because I do I do like I would consider myself a consultant because I'm not doing long term.

Alex Stalberger 29:36

It has a place for sure. But I can't call that, like successful coaching.

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 29:41

Yeah, sure. For sure. You know, yeah.

Alex Stalberger 29:44

Yeah. And I think that clarity, for me, it was a breath of fresh air, because then I can call it something different. You know, I wouldn't call it coaching, I wouldn't call it an optimization session. You know, we can talk about that. But that's you will not the same.

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 29:57

That totally makes sense to me. Because I think for me, brainstorming one time with someone doesn't make them my coach, I guess is my thought, you know, it's like you have to be coached by them. like a like a soccer coach doesn't just coach one game, and they're done. Yeah, it

Alex Stalberger 30:12

kind of reminds me of reading a book. You know, books are very inspiring. It's beautiful to get their input and their insight and you feel like, you feel energized after you're finished. And you may change your lifestyle for a couple weeks, three weeks, maybe maybe you're you know, maybe a couple months. Yeah. But those old habits start to creep back in unless you continue, you know, reading maybe another?

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 30:33

Yeah, I think habits I've read. I've read a lot of books about habits. And they're very, it's interesting, how you can change I guess, over time, and how you can set new habits. It's hard, but you know, and what do you what have you found with with your clients with habits,

Unknown Speaker 30:47

changing will have no change will happen unless it's grounded in something that's, I will call it intention. You have to be intentional, and it has to be grounded in something that truly motivates you. It's not a surface level of motivation. It's not a I'm doing this, so I can launch this product. You know, in six months, I need this energy and clarity. That is that is superficial, we've got to dig a little bit deeper and understand, Okay, what about that is actually your purpose? Understanding what does what does get you going? Why are you doing the work that you're doing? And that's why I spend so much time getting to know somebody in the beginning, because if I can't help them route, their goals and that intention, they will not be successful, because those temporary things that we think are our goals, those those expire, but if you if you dig deeper into the purpose, like why are you doing, you might have three different businesses or three different leadership roles, you know, all these things happening, all these happening, but you've got one thing that connects you to all of them. If you can identify that and root your goals in that, and your your wellness habits, your self care, your lifestyle, that it can all be rooted and balanced in that you will find that your habits will fall in line to you will be successful.

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 32:01

Yeah, I think it's all about the way I think mindset is really important. It is. There's a lot I, there's this podcast, I'll link it in the show notes. But it talks about how, in order for you to change anything in your life, you have to accept yourself as the person you're going to become. So it talks about like, right now, you might think you're either like overweight or lazy or something, it's and you always call yourself that in your head. But until you you like think of yourself as the person that you want to be, you'll never change. Because it's like, it's like, oh, I am a healthy person like that, you know, like, it's all about the way that you like, almost like self talk that like it's how you picture yourself. Like, or, like, that's why like people when they go to the gym in January, they're like, I'm not a gym person. They say that to themselves, and they're going to the gym. That's why they give up. But they have to tell themselves that they're a gym person. Or like, you know, it's kind of like a self fulfilling prophecy of like, I'm not a gym person. So then they like give up, you know,

Alex Stalberger 32:55

yes, I love Jensen Cheryl, her book. Yeah, that's love her too. Yeah, love it. I love the way that she makes this idea really accessible. But and many people write about this idea of me writing. Yeah, but writing your story. Like, if you can be I, we just held an internal meditation workshop at the studio space. And it was talking about creating this space where you can identify your thought patterns, you know, that's that is meditation, being aware of your thoughts. But I think it's very similar in your story, you need to be aware of what story you're telling yourself. Yeah. So you can be aware of the story you'd like to tell?

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 33:32

Yeah, cuz I think for me, that is something I've learned in the last year is like how I think about things I need to think, like, I am that person, you know, and it's not, it's not fake, like, you don't want to fake it, you have to actually believe in it. Like, you have to believe that you are that person or you are going to be that person. Yeah. Versus like, I think I'm that person. I don't know, like, I'm like, I want to be that person, but I don't think I could ever be that person. Like, you know, that fear mentality of like, I are like, that's where like jealousy comes in, you know, where it's like, Oh, I wish I was that person like that. You could be like, you know, and maybe shouldn't because they're different than you. And they have different skills, but like, you should be the best you that you can be and not be somebody else. Because that's already taken. Taken? Yeah, yes.

Alex Stalberger 34:20

Yes. So, you know, as much as I like to talk about food and the importance of nutrition, none of that is worth anything if we can't change our mindset around what it is to be successful. Yeah. And that's where I came up with, you know, my name is successful coaching. That's my brand name. And it was because we are really redefining what it feels like to be successful. And what it feels like to operate with true success that's sustainable, and not operating in the burnout mode, because we idolize that. The hustle. We've idolized, we've idolized the, you know, I haven't eaten in days, I haven't sleep slept in days. But what would things be like if our mentors of our models, we're prioritizing self care and self love? I think a lot of people over time have realized this, especially because now we can work from home. And so it's like home life and work life aren't separated. You know, I how do you separate your working life in your personal life? Hilarious. So, so I started out working from home, I started out working from coffee shops, and I couldn't get the flow that I needed. And I was very aware of that. In the beginning. I wanted to be able to work from home, I need that separation. Because my brain works best having that separation. But I? That's such a good question. Because I have to say I'm definitely on that journey of figuring out because I don't want to have a separate home and career. Like Yeah, no, I agree. I want it to be universally integrated, but it has to have boundaries. You know, Tuesday nights are my nights off where I get to be home and I'm unplugged, I'm turned off. And that's something that I found that needs to happen is important to me. So Tuesdays and Sundays, like in the afternoons and evenings, like it has to be that because I need my time to remember that, you know, Home Home exists also to be enjoyed, and to be relaxed. And yeah,

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 36:09

I think putting those boundaries up is so important, because I feel the same way where it's like you want it to be part of your life. But you also like for the longest time I wanted it to be separate. Like I wanted everything in my life to be in categories, and not overlap, really. And now I'm like, Well, that seems like I'm living like 10 different lives, you know? Right, you know, and so for me, but yeah, and it's like now it's like, Okay, well, why can't I just do them all, and like everyone can see all of them and not just like parts of them just because I feel like I'm high. I don't know, I'm not like hiding anything. But it's also like, but but that's who I am. And not like that's not who I'm trying to be I guess. So.

Alex Stalberger 36:46

And I of course I can't think of the the word. Cynthia Kim. She is a yoga instructor and a dear friend of mine and a mentor of mine as well. And she, she taught me this, this word, and I can't remember, I think it's Japanese, I'm not sure. But it's this idea, I'm going to describe it for you this idea of of like, ultimate purpose. And that that's what shows up at the root of why we're striving for what we're striving for in our career. And it also shows up when we're like in the grocery store and meeting strangers like it's what motivates us in every aspect of our lives. And the more we know about that ultimate purpose that shows up at home shows up in, in your community shows up with your friends and relationships. The more that we're familiar with that in ourselves, the more we'll be able to integrate balance, because you'll know what really happens to

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 37:39

you. I think that's what I've been trying to figure out for the last few years is like what is my driver, like? What drives me and wanting to be an entrepreneur wanting to help people like I found out a year and a half ago that I'm an empath, which completely changed my life, because it helped me understand why I do things. But also like, it made me realize, like, why I do things? And certainly and why that and now I can look at that and be like, okay, am I doing this? Because I want to do it? Or is it because I have a tendency to do this? Yeah, no, I love that. This idea of like, it's not good. It's not bad. But is it? Is it serving me or not serving me? And something I want and noticing it too, I think because I think the biggest thing that a lot of people don't realize is that self awareness of of what they are, if they even have an issue, or if they even have something unbalanced or something or they if they ignore it, or if they like face it head on, which I sometimes get scared to do. But I eventually do. Yeah, for a lot of things.

Alex Stalberger 38:35

So before I walked in here, I was experiencing some nerves, right? Yeah. And that's the experience, like the body's responding to something to stimuli. And you have a couple of options there. There are people that go through life that experience the bodily stress, experience emotion, and they accept that they just accept that that is their response to the situation. But you could also be aware of what you're feeling and then have a toolkit to respond bond. Because if you don't like that you're nervous. You can take really deep belly breaths, and you can you know, energize that parasympathetic nervous system, you you can do something about it. So just being aware of Okay, I have I have a response. But I can I can choose what I do after that.

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 39:15

Yeah, I think that it is a choice, because you do have Yeah, like those natural reactions to things. But it's like, what do you choose to do with it after?

Unknown Speaker 39:23

Right? Is it serving you like is it wasn't serving me to be nervous? I think so it gets me excited.

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 39:28

Important. Yeah. And I think that part of it, I feel like sometimes you can't help either. Like, there's times when you're afraid. And there's a reason to be afraid, you know, and it's just like, you have to experience those emotions. But I think it is that coping mechanism that you need to figure out like, how do I I used to suffer from panic attacks when I was a child. And I think now looking at it, it's probably because I'm an empath I just things like, you know, took shook me to my core a lot. And I would have trouble sleeping. I felt like I was having a heart attack. So you know, I had a lot of things, therapies and stuff because of that, but it's just like, I learned how to cope with a panic attack and how it like, it's all mental. That's what panic attack is, it's you thinking of something so much so that you start panicking.

Alex Stalberger 40:09

The physical was Yes. Thoughts so important. Because of that, aha, you can have a thought and it'll completely change your physical Yes. Being. You know, surprisingly, we I work a lot with people on feelings of anxiety. Because anxiety is an expression of that stress, mental stress and physical stress. And how many of you listening have ever experienced that? Right?

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 40:30

Are you experiencing it right now? Yeah, right. I have extreme anxiety at times. But it's more worried than things. I don't know the differences. But like, I want warrior, like my whole fit its genetic to I think, like my, or maybe it's learned because my, it's on my dad's side, but like, it's definitely something we're like, everyone has always been a warrior for generations back. And it's like, is that a learned thing? Is that genetic? Is that you know, like I didn't seem to explore

Unknown Speaker 40:56

I know, because it's amazing what you're how food and nutrition can impact your mental health. There's everything is connected. Everything that you do you know that that will work and serve to get you out of that worry? Yeah, right. They can all have an impact. And food can be one of them.

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 41:14

For sure. Let's talk a little bit about your new space. Yeah, we actually did our party there. Yes. April, I think it was we had the snowstorm. Yeah, that's right. Pretty interesting, but it's a really nice space. And what are you using that for now?

Alex Stalberger 41:27

Yes. So um, so thrive studios, it is it is brand new, and I actually it will come under full management of me and my financial responsibility and everything be awesome. And I'm really passionate about this space. Because since I can, since I can remember building a community and building connections, that's always been something super motivating to me. But what I see is opportunity for those of us, those of us both within the wellness and health industry, and and those of us that don't work in that industry, but want to implement these things like I want to space for us to authentically Connect authentically share what works and create this workspace that really does uphold this idea of workplace and workplace wellness and work life balance. Because we know how important your workspaces, you're the sum of the five people you spend the most time with, and I it most of the time, it's not your spouse, most of the time is not your best friend. It's the people that you work alongside, through. And, you know, as, as we know, as entrepreneurs, getting to know other people that are passionate and visionary. Those are the people

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 42:34

I want to surround myself with hundred percent. So

Alex Stalberger 42:36

this, this studio space offers two different things that offers it's a small collective co workers and co working spaces seven, you know, seven memberships of people that want to use this dedicated space, but in the evenings and on the weekends, it is a space for workshops to share education about what are we doing to do what we're doing to make this these Twin Cities the best place that can be? What are we doing to do that? Well, and how come we share that information with others and lift each other up? And so it's very, it's very exciting

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 43:05

for you, because I feel like it's going to grow to something that a lot of people think need, and like a space to do that. You know,

Alex Stalberger 43:11

I've been meeting with a lot of people in the holistic wellness health industry. And I asked them this question is Where are you going to meet other people in the wellness industry. And they have their one on one, one on one meetings. And as we know, those are beautiful times Beautiful, beautiful things happen in a one on one meeting. But what if there was a resource that you and I could both go to? And say, Gosh, I don't know much about functional medicine? What is that? What could my primary doctor like suggests, like herbs to me? What would that be? Like? What is it like to use it? Like what is alternative medicine? And those are all questions that are hard to answer. You go online, you get a bunch of answers, you're like this isn't helping, I want to meet a real person. So what we hope to do is create this, this wellness network of people in the industry that we can we can start to ask these questions and start to you know,

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 44:07

break down those walls because I'll help each other

Alex Stalberger 44:10

well, I'm a holistic health coach. And I do something very specific. And I want to have resources. So I can I can

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 44:16

point you in something like the wedding industry when like, we're all working towards the same goal, which is to put on a wedding. Yeah. So it's like to get the vendors you got the photographers you got you know, and it's like knowing other people in your industry, a lot of people are scared of that. And I'm like, No, you got to know everyone else in the industry. Because you say that somebody comes to you and you're booked or something, you've got to have a you got to have a second person you have to be like, sorry, goodbye, that

Alex Stalberger 44:38

fear is so bogus. And it comes out of that it comes out of that, like scarcity space, not the abundance space. So and I think Jenna Redfield Twin Cities collective

does so well is it, it teaches people, hey, you could be scared of others. Or you can acknowledge that everybody has a really unique strengths. And you could come together and ask your questions, blatantly asked what you don't know. And be cool with that. Be like, Hey, I don't know that we're all in this together we are together. And when you're building that culture, I love the idea of transforming culture. And and it's well so important, because that's what's going to change. And that's what's going to stay

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 45:15

Yeah, I think that's so true. I was talking about this this morning about Minnesota culture and how we are just kind of not used to helping each other like in terms of like, we just don't reach out like we just kind of do our own thing. We're very do it yourselfers. And it's like no, like the rest of the world is is like needing other people to why aren't Why is it Minnesota doing that. And I think that's what I my biggest thing that drives Twin Cities collective is like, we need to be more like how we should be, which is communicating with each other and helping each other and being an actual community and not just like a fake community where like, we're all just trying to compete against each other. That's not right.

Alex Stalberger 45:53

industries. And what we're building here in the Twin Cities, if we want to up level if we want as like a collective whole of the Twin Cities wants to bring bring our cities to the next level. It has to be through collaboration. There's just too much we don't know and don't have to know, brains are just so big.

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 46:11

So the future is collaboration. Awesome. Well, thank you so much for being here. How do we find you online? Yeah, how do we what are your handles and such?

Alex Stalberger 46:18

Absolutely. So on Instagram, you can find me at successful coaching and successful as success with an F and the word who le successful coaching. So that's my Instagram handle. And you can also find me on Facebook under that very same name. or online. My website is www dot successful, you know, success.

Jenna Redfield Twin Cities Collective 46:41

I will leave the tweet. That'd be great. Oh, yeah. So awesome. Well, thanks for being here. hope everyone enjoyed this episode, and I'll talk to you soon. Thanks for

thanks for listening to make sure to leave us a review on iTunes. Thanks again for Ian at Studio Americana for producing this episode, as well as Melanie Lee for designing the podcast art. And thanks to Nicole I had less for the use of the song in the intros outros. Thanks so much again, and I'll see you next time.


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